Have you ever fallen in love with someone who didn’t love you back? Did you stop pursuing or keep pushing forward? And if so, how far did you take it? and I am sharing this is based on my experience, of myself and the people I have seen or talked in details. It’s amazing that love can make us do some crazy things. We’d all agree to that. The summer I turned 19, I found myself in the throes of romantic obsession with a woman who didn’t love me back. It was one of those worst nightmares I hunted me for years later.
Now I cannot really explain myself why Instead of turning around and moving on, I tired crazy things to make the girl show how intense was my feel until it reached to the point that she was ready to call 911. I was caught in Cupid’s crosshairs of one-sided love, and the nature of unrequited love and romantic obsession was almost lethal. but as time passed and I grew up I realized things that helped me heal myself, prepare myself to stay calm and ready for someone who really deserved me.
Here’s some things we learned about unrequited love, romantic obsession, and breaking free from the bonds of an impossible relationship.
Unrequited love is incredibly common, they say over 4/7 of us have had some experience with it at least by our early and mid 20’s or even 30’s. The good news is that you’re not alone, but the bad news is that what you may feel is a uniquely amazing, special, and unique star-crossed love that no one else could possibly understand really isn’t. We get it -we’ve been there, too. So find someone you can talk to, someone who won’t judge you someone who would listen every word you say and someone who is willing to invest efforts on make you feel better.
The state of mind of being in an unrequited obsession, is that you’re hunting for clues, you’re hunting for signals, you can’t truly listen to the other person anymore.” It takes courage and clarity to walk away from someone who can’t or won’t love you back, and that clarity is hard to come by when you’re caught in the heady and intoxicating brew of romantic love. Remember to remind yourself about self-respect. No one on earth has rights to disrespect you by your feeling and efforts.
If you find yourself caught up in doing something that seriously feels out of character over a relationship that’s not treating you well or making your life better in any way, it’s time to take a good hard look at severing ties.
Finally, unrequited love changes us, sometimes for worse, but sometimes for better. It doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom when you find yourself falling for someone who just isn’t in to you. Lisa writes about “the transformational power of unrequited love”. Without unrequited love, we wouldn’t have Dante’s great works or the poetry of Emily Dickinson, she highlights, “it’s a very imaginative process”. The difference between tragedy and transcendence? It’s all in how you approach it.
How can you make the most of your unrequited love
experience? Sit with your feelings,
accept them, grieve them, and ask yourself, what is this feeling telling
you, what’s missing, what you’re hoping it could do for you and then ask
yourself, “can you get those things in another way, in a real way.” And that
can be really hard to do, so don’t be hesitant to seek out personal and
professional support along the way.
And if all else fails – remember: what a
glorious and harmless revenge living your best life is.