Happy Friday, June 10th, 2022. I was not able to allow any time for my routing soul searching for a really long time. Today while I was having a busy day at work, without no logical reason I felt so off mode and decided to write something again. Since we never know if this would be my last ever post we better never wait to do those things we love so much. and if you have been reading my post, you would know being able to write things and express my thoughts has always been one of my top priorities. Anyways, today I want to be a little more selfish than usually I am and talk about myself only. So bare with me LOL.
in our current world, Loneliness and social isolation and its impact has been growing and will continue to grow. It’s almost a scientific fact that Loneliness has become a public health epidemic. Given the disconnectedness of our world, it’s not surprising that rates of loneliness have increased in recent decades, especially for those who fall under my social profile/category. Although the influence of social media is still up for debate, I kinda believe people like me who are used to in-person visits don’t feel social media helps them keep meaningful connections. Talking over a video call for hours wont do much when i crave to see someone in person, and talk, and socialize. Which, sadly not happening in reality, lately.
The funny thing is that mostly on friday’s I can literally sense that my existing Loneliness and social isolation and their impact has been growing since the beginning of 2022 and I assume it will continue to grow until a solution is found. My fundamental human need — crucial to both my well-being and survival is now missing. Sometimes it worries me that, people like me who lack human contact fail to thrive and often die, and indeed, it’s like the invisible Jail where even others cannot visibly see it but my social isolation or solitary confinement is close to a lethal form of punishment. Now, being negative won’t solve this issue. So let’s cut all the craps and find some attainable solution. So far, my brain is unable to organize any solid solution but there are a few things I wanna try.
First and foremost: I need to try to be a little kinder to myself than I have been. My inner critic feeds feelings of my loneliness and it must stop! I need to stop thinking I am different from other people or that I don’t fit in, That’s one reason I am so selectively social and it makes it harder to bond with others. I need to give recognition to my thoughts and be open to making some changes necessary to bond with others regardless of how I profile them. Today I must acknowledge that Loneliness is like a pain, even It can be hard to measure, but I know when I feel it. So from the clear sign, I may need more time with friends and family. No more making silly pointless excuses to stay disconnected from people who’d carry me to the grave and share some tears if i don’t exist anymore.
nextly, I think this is the most important: I badly need to rediscover my hobbies. That magical moment where I get lost in doing something I enjoy can push me past loneliness. I need to disregard the gasoline price increase, fill up my tank and take some motor trips. and this must start as early as tomorrow, June 11th, 2022. I also thought of a pet dog. but I don’t know how realistic is the idea. I don’t even have time to cook for myself. I stay away from home 2/3 of my day so chances are the pet will die in starvation.
Lastly, I need to put the gear to the next level and Reconnect with others. It will Start with a WhatsApp call and then consider scheduling an online chat. So, for people who really matter, I need to allow a healthy amount weekly to connect to them. I heard somewhere online party with friends across the miles, may give it a try soon. If you are going through a similar situation, or want to give a piece of your experienced advice, feel free click here and shoot me a message. Thanks for reading, That’s all for now! Cheers…
Safin