Its Friday the 17th, September 2021. I felt a bit sorry for myself that I was exhausted and far away from feeding my soul lately. I have been so lazy for last 6-8 weeks. So today I planned to talk about one of my favorite quote I lived by “Love is not for the lazy!” So unfortunate, We’re a society built on instant gratification. I think that’s another reason why more and more people struggle to find a lasting and deep connection with someone. Worst, we cannot even connect to our own soul sometimes. We dont know what we want from life, in time and space of reality we get lost in our virtual world full of nothing. So before its too late I have decided to focus on things I love most.
Anyways, going back to the topic – Love is not for the lazy, but instant gratification is. If we want to buy something, we order it on lazada/Shopee and in two days it arrives. If we want to know the answer to something, we google it and seconds later we have our answer. If we don’t like who we’re mingling with, we sign up for Tinder or some other dating site, swipe right, and shortly we have a new to talk to. But its almost an universal fact that : If you’re looking for real love, love that last, love that completes you, then instant gratification has got to go. Again: “Love is not for the lazy!”
So agree or not – Instant gratification is a major love killer. AND, It can no longer be the way you live your life. That’s why they say: love is a marathon, and not a sprint. If Online dating has completely changed the game of your life. It has to come to an end NOW! Online dating feeds into the instant gratification fix that people live by these days. We’re already prone to instant gratification because it’s human nature to want to feel good right now. But this increases the chance that you will grow older and lonelier and full of regrets someday!
I remember back when I did it. I did facebook dating which was free and simple. There was always someone new to say Hola! There was always a new face each day so you never really had to commit. Plus, with the huge influx of people each day, you become extremely picky (because actually you even dont know what to choose). You become a lot pickier than you would ever be in real life because you could never meet that many people (being an introvert). It’s kind of a double-edged sword. You can’t be too picky because you would never go out with anyone but there’s so many people how do you narrow it down? Then just when you think you’ve narrowed it down, you reach out, and you never hear back from any of the people you reached out to. Online dating can be extremely frustrating (if you dont have experience and strategies)!
Now let me ask you who is still trying luck on online dating: Why are you forced to be picky? You know more about this person in minutes before you even speak to that person. Yes, this can be good, but it can also make us super picky. We don’t message someone that could have been a great romantic potential because there’s always a new face, or that person’s profile isn’t exactly what we think we want or need. Maybe there’s just one little item on the profile that makes us swipe left. I know I am right, and you wont disagree! So agree or not – It can no longer be the way you live your life.
Also, some people don’t take great photographs. Some people look better in person! Some people don’t know all the tricks to taking selfies and photo editing, so those people miss out! Those are probably the kind of people frankly that you want to meet!!! They aren’t as concerned with looks. I bet if you met some of those people in person you would feel relieved that you didn’t swipe left. We’ve become so visual! Everything is online, so everything must be more esthetically pleasing in order to stand out. It’s so dumb, but it’s the reality because there are so many people online. There’s too many people. It’s so overwhelming. So agree or not – It can no longer be the way you live your life.
Obviously, stay away from Tinder and other hook-up dating sites. If you’re reading my blog and looking for love then you shouldn’t be on anything that even remotely signifies hooking up. I’m not saying there aren’t any nice people on Tinder, but you’re going to have to sort through those only looking to hook-up. It’s hard enough already! So agree or not – It can no longer be the way you live your life.
Remember, love is not for the lazy. Take the time to do the work on yourself first. If you continue to end up in dead-end relationships, stop dating and do some work on yourself. Figure out what it is about YOU that’s preventing you from meeting your soulmate. I promise you it’s not every person you’re dating. Do the work on yourself, first. Make sure you’re ready for love before you begin searching and remember the most important thing you need to know if you want to find love that lasts…. You have to be the best version of you and live a happy life before you will find your forever person. Period. That’s just the way it is. There’s no short-cuts!
Safin